On Wednesday morning I was suppose to be flying to Minneapolis, MN to join a great group of women bloggers for the General Mills Eat & Greet gathering on this…
Unfortunately, along with a new school year came a new round of viruses and sick children. One of which happened to pass a cold but onto my son, who in turn gave it to everyone in our house, including our 6 month old, Emmaleigh.
This left me in quite the predicament, do I
- go and have a good time and leave the sick children with my mom and husband to care for all while suffering from the dreaded mommy guilt or
- regret missing the chance to connect with a brand that means a lot to me but do my motherly duty and hold my babies tight while they fight through their colds
After thinking long and hard about it, regret is no match for mommy guilt. Knowing myself, I know that I wouldn’t be able to give General Mills my full attention if I’m thinking about my baby girl at home sniffling, sneezing, coughing and feeling miserable without her mommy there to rub her little baldish head and hum her our lullaby. So home is where I’ll be and where I belong, while my baby girl fights through her first cold.
Mommies, does mommy guilt ever kick in and keep you from doing something you’d really love to do?
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I turned down the same trip originally because of Mommy guilt. I didn’t want to be away from my kids again AND I didn’t want to burden my husband with the responsibility. I know that sounds weird, he’s their father, but he is trying to grow a new business and can’t afford the 2-3 days off or even partially off to take care of the kids. He told me “go, we’ll figure it out” but I just couldn’t do it.
You get to be my test dummy again.
Oh, I’ll miss you. You are a great mom Cat! I think General Mills will have that much more respect for you and your decision
Thanks Shannon, I really hope so. I feel terrible about not being able to attend, but I have to put my kiddos first.
Kim, I need to use you as my test dummy, do you get an email from this?
Yup
Cat,
Mommy guilt has made me who I am today (just kidding), but it does come into play w/most of the decisions I make. I too would have stayed home. Although wiping runny noses and dodging sneezes probably doesn’t compare to being wined and dined (Oh the desserts!), I’m pretty sure the memories your children will have of you staying home and caring for them will be well cherished. Nobody can rub a bald head or sing a lullaby like mom.
Cat,
Go with your gut instinct…if it’s saying “stay home”, that’s the best decision. Your baby may not remember this instance, but, nothing beats having mom around when you’re sick. I hope everyone gets well soon.
I admire you for recognizing your priorities…your family!
I appreciate that Willow, my babies always come first. I just wish I could make her little cold go away, she seems to be getting worse.
I had to go to Ohio for a week for work and cried the entire time. All I could think about was my baby girl being watched by my sister and how It should totally of been me not her watching my princess. But finally I got home and I don’t think she even missed me!!
I hear you, Mommy Guilt always wins here LOL I just can’t go and leave my baby behind…I really thought I was weird, but I’m happy that I’m not the only one feeling like this!
Hope everyone feels better though!
I ended up not being able to go either. sigh…
http://mommymandy.com/i-should-be-in-minnesota-right-now-for-the-general-mills-eat-greet
Sorry to hear you missed the Eat & Greet, hope everyone feels better soon!!