Kindness is love in action…Patience avoids a problem, kindness creates a blessing.
It’s amazing how much I can learn in just two days. I’m sure you can tell I’ve been somewhat skeptical of this process but today, I feel different. While yesterday was certainly no piece of cake, it taught me so much about myself and who I’ve let myself become. I’ve been so angry, so bitter, and resentful for so long that I am NOT the person my husband married. Neither is he. We’ve been in this vicious cycle of hurting each other because we are hurting inside. How’s that for a revelation?
By the end of the evening we weren’t necessarily happy with each other, but we were peaceful. It’s a nice feeling. I felt better. And that patience we had for each other spread to patience with our children.
Then Day 2 came…
In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
I would say that I’m often kind to my husband when the occasion arises, but do I ever make a kind gesture that isn’t asked for? Not so much. And I think that was the point of today’s exercise. To take the initiative to be kind without expecting something in return or being asked for help. My husband doesn’t know it yet because I’m waiting for the kids to go down for the evening, but I’m going to brew him a gallon of tea. It’s something he loves but I rarely make unless he begs me to do it. I think I should remember to do things like this more often.
- You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness.
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Cat,
What you’re reading and saying is so obvious, but it’s funny how it becomes such a burden to do when it really isn’t. I know I need to do more for my husband because he does so much for me. I’m enjoying “reading” the book w/you.
It is so commendable for you and your husband to really tough it out and try to make your marriage work! Good for you!
Sarah (mama findings) and I were supposed to do this together but we’ve gotten so busy with other projects (and life) it’s been crazy. I definitely need to chat with her and see if we’re still on. If not I guess I’ll be on my own right behind you.
I’m so glad you’re doing this. It’s such an awesome movie and I know the challenges are going to royally bite but at the same time we all need this in our marriages. LOL
BTW who did your media kit? I sneaked a peek and it looks amazing! I was so sad I missed this on momdot. Things have just been nuts lately.
After reading your post yesterday, I pulled out my copy of the book too. It’s definitely something I should have done months ago, but kept putting it off. It’s amazing how simple the tasks are in theory, but we manage to overlook them day to day.
Since we’re both doing the Love Dare I might start blogging about it to and we can compare notes!
Today I left my husband a note with his lunch on the table that said, ‘I love you’. It was totally unexpected and sweet. Has he said anything about it? NO! But…ahem…it’s supposed to be for him…not for me! lol
I hope that this gets easier for the both of us. Sounds like you did good today. Keep up the good work!
Good read Cat
I take time to show my hubby random acts atleast twice a day even when were not talking. Its hard but when I think about hard he works every day and comes home 3 this mad house I have to be nice or he’d run away. I know I would.
I am so proud of you … it is hardest sometimes to face the issues right in front of us … I send you strength and really wish you so much luck!
Cat,
I’m really enjoying your posts on this. I think that sometimes we should all take the initiative to do a little something special for not only our husbands, but other people in our lives.
Wow, you have inspired me to give The Love Dare a try.
I love reading about your experiences with the love dare! Best of luck & love to you!
What random act of kindness were you the receipent of?
I am a firm believer that sometimes you have to go out of your way and be nice to your Hubby but it’s not always easy. I am love keeping up with this, keep keeping us posted.
Good for you! I really think that this book helps to get people out of that “cofort side by side slump” that we went to fall into after kids and marriage. The little changes are what can really make things.
Still cheering for your marriage! ((((Hugs))))
awwww Cat. This really makes me anxious to start reading my book! BTW I think this is going to be something that I will be purchasing for couples when they are married!
I’m so proud of you for taking this initiative! I’m sure he loved the effort you made