I realize that every relationship is different and couples have a different tolerance level for each other, but really, how many days can you truly spend in the same house with your husband/wife before you start feeling like your life is about to play out like this…
I love my husband very much, I do, but the truth is I can only handle him in small doses and he’s been home for exactly 6 days now. That’s not a small dose, not even close.
For the first few days following the surgery, he was walking around much like a zombie. On pain medication and still drowsy from the anesthesia, it wasn’t so bad. But then he started coming back to being himself again, the singing, the lame jokes, munching on my snacks, all of the annoying little quirks of his personality that I would surely miss if he were gone but can’t stand when he’s here.
To say I’m ecstatic that he’s heading back to work tomorrow would be an understatement. I love the man, but only in small doses. For the sake of our marriage, it’s best if we spend no more than 4 days alone with each other.
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I understand. However, Joshua and I have been on trips where we spent almost two weeks together, 24/7. We didn’t argue or get upset with each other. We have a high tolerance for each other – thankfully.
Jerrica, it’s interesting you mention that because when my husband and I spent a week in Jamaica a few years back…we didn’t argue or get irritated with each other one itty bit.
I think once you separate yourself from home life, work, finances and the kids, you find yourself more tolerant of the other person and enjoy life a little more.
I think we need a vacation. LOL
LOL Im so glad Im not the only one who feels this way. My husband tolerance level is 3 days. Unless we are on a vacation. Then it’s a lot longer. Maybe cause vacations just make you happier?! LOL
I seem to get a little more irratated than normal when we are home together for more than 4 -6 days. At christmas we went home for a week to spend it with family – no argueing, other than complaining about my FIL lol. Once we got back he was home a another week+ before going back to work. he enjoyed being lazy and stayed in the house the entire time, well i am a SAHM mommy so when he is off I want to go out together & do things. i was only slighly aggitated at him, but was ready for him to go back to work so me & baby girl could get back on schedule. I love him lots and we rarely fight
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My husband works from home so we are together 24-7. You’re right- it does get smothering sometimes!
LOL I hear ya!!! I’m the same way with my dh. If he’s here, I complain that he’s driving me crazy. If he’s not here I’m complaining that I miss him. *sigh* Are all couples like this? Or are we just weird? lol
The movie clip was great! I love Kathleen Turner!
LOL I am am the same way. I start to get very irritated when dh is home longer than 3 days. For some odd reason the kids argue and fuss way more when he is home. Not sure what that’s about!
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Amen! It seems like when you are around each other ALL of the time, things that wouldn’t normally bug you start to. I definitely notice it. (And the snacks thing would drive me nuts too. I hate buying snacks only to look in the pantry when I’m really craving it and find it’s gone
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LOL – That’s hilarious girl and I’m sure many would agree with you. Glad to hear he’s doing better!
Hugs!
I’m with you there…it does depend on the situation. But sometimes if hubby is home for an extended time it kind of disrupts routine…and if he’s home just for the sake of taking time off, I tend to want him to help with stuff around the house. LOL I don’t like cleaning and doing stuff around the house while he sits and plays video games all day.
It’s funny. Pre-kids my husband and I spent so much time together. We worked at the same place, we organized our classes so that we could take quite a few classes together and we were living together. But now…I think the film you shared had some good points.
I completely understand-Even though I’m not married, I see it with most of the married couples I know. Small doses is a great way to put it!
been there and just recently to, mine just had three weeks of vacation with all these plans of home improvement projects, well he went back to work today with nothing accomplished except a larger dent in the couch, boy am i breathing a sigh of relief
Oh my word, that preview was SO funny! lol I guess we all feel like that once in awhile… well, except I try not to throw things.
Or run over him with my car… okay, it doesn’t get that bad. haha
I know when I need to get away from everyone and get some time by myself.
Lately I was sick, it’s been nothing but cold, rainy weather so we can’t go outside, and we live in a TINY apartment (lucky peeps on that movie had a huge house!). All that = me almost insane. lol
So glad he is doing so much better and is able to get on your nerves.
You would not last in our house, with Bill retired and me disabled, we are together just about all the time. Of course, he has his office and I work in either the living room or the bedroom during part of the day, so we don’t see each other every single minute. But I don’t mind it because I really hate being alone.
There’s definitely a difference between the tolerance between people while on vacation compared to home life which includes chores, kids, and responsibilities. I hear you!
I had not seen that movie in many years. I think there is at least one battle that everyone can relate to! I actually wish I had more time with my husband. In addition to working 8 1/2 hours a day, he spends 3 hours a day commuting to and from work. I always look forward to weekends and vacations!
Seriously, this reminds me of when my hubby broke his ankle and was home for 2 months. It was horrible. It’s not that I need him in small doses normally, but when he was in bed, not able to walk and grumpy…yah, I was ready for him to go back to work for sure.